Conditions 2 and 3 had little effect, perhaps because the self-disclosure exercise was so powerful. The self-disclosure was structured as a set of 36 questions. The entire list may be found HERE, but a sampling includes:
• If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
• If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
• If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
• If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
• If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
• Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
• Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share _______.”
• When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
• Tell your partner something that you like about them already.